Breaking the news to my boys with my W is the thing that I dread the most about this whole sitch. I can't agree more about the innocent victims however, we can be strong and be there for them from here on out.
Funny you talk about the selfishness, I went for a walk today with one of my neighbors and that is all he could keep repeating. Sad as it is we have no control over it.
Detaching isn't about totally getting them out of your life. I have no desire to be friends with my W after she moves out. However, I will not be mean, I will not talk down about her in front of my children, I will help support her decisions with respect to the children if I agree or else we need to come to a different understanding. Yes, we will be tied to our wives because of our children but we don't need to be their friend we do however need to show them respect and decency because our children are not only watching them but they are carefully watching us as well.
My W knows that I know about the A but after I said I was done I never mentioned it again. My L has told her L about it but I will not give either my W or OM the satisfaction of wasting my time and energy on them. This would only change if my W decided she wanted to work on the R/M and then it would be about boundaries, no contact, transparency, etc.
I will head over and check out your thread.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
