Human's are not machines. You don't change the spark plugs and they all run fine. Some people respond to the techniques that the people on this board recommend; others react exactly the opposite. In some cases the WAS has second thoughts; in others the WAS says "Good Riddance!". If what they suggest doesn't work for you, why would you continue? Have you read the Divorce Remedy book? Have you tried Michele Wiener Davis' advice? It's not the same as what the people on this board are posting. Or you could call and get a phone counseling session.