Need some advice about asking my H to reconsider putting the house up for sale right now.
When he first left 6 weeks ago, he mentioned putting the house up for sale. Moreover, I told him no, we didn’t need to right away. He said he didn’t want to live at his moms for very long and that he wanted his own place, that he feels homeless. BTW, I have asked him to move back home. He says “NO”, with no hesitation and in his mind I kicked him out and I’ve hurt him so bad, that he can’t come back to that.
A few weeks ago, in trying to do a 180, when he brought up putting the house up for sale again I said yes. It did catch him off guard and he was very surprised at my agreement. Sense then he has called the realtor and he is coming over this coming up Monday.
Sense that conversation, I have told H that if he really wants his own place and is willing to get a cheap 1 bedroom apt. I think we can figure out away to manage that financially. However, he would have to go over the finances with me and agree on what to cut out, because it would put us on a tight budget. Well he is coming over this Sunday so we can go over the money.
Here is my dilemma. I want to ask him to reconsider putting the house up for sale just yet. However, I’m not sure that is a good idea, sense I had already agreed. I don’t want the added stress of the house being for sale, plus my D9 is having a harder time with the possibility of losing her house then she is with dad being gone. Please any advice with this one.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
