Just wanted to let you guys who were giving me advice that I have been doing very well the past couple days. Did not contact W at all, sometimes didn't even answer her calls. Today I did and she says "don't you ever answer your phone!" because she is used to me being on top of it when she calls. She let me know she was having a really bad day, feels like she is losing it. School is rough, job is rough, life is rough..."she's a basket case these days" in her words. Funny thing is...past few days I have not even thought about W much. Went to bed last night without wondering why she has not called or when she was going to. When she woke me up at 12:30am with a call I told her I was sleeping and will talk to her tomorrow. I think I am FINALLY starting to get this.
Setting my first counseling appt tomorrow after work. Will talk to wife if she calls but not everytime, will not contact her. Hell I can see that it made a difference in just two days. And here is the funny thing...before I would be looking that it made a difference in HER. This time I can see the difference in ME and I like it.
