You need to go dark, ASAP. The only hope is to back away and leave him completely alone. If you insist on doing what you are told "not" to do, then it won't work. It is hard, and it may take up to five years if he's in MLC....but it will be up to you to make the decision to wait it out.....not your Pastor's. That is not meant to be disprespectful toward your Pastor, but he isn't the one M to your H!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
