ANd it is true, when I'm down, Rui tends to pick the feeling and it seems exactly like LL says.
Maybe before the talk you have time to right a few points you would like to discuss. Make sure to include good stuff that is happening as well. ANother thought, maybe he's just confused. Whe tend to do to others what we like done to us, maybe he's actions are meant to show you he loves you, but they might not be the ones that reassure you of that. And that might get him confused and blaming himself for your feeling down. Just an idea Hugs nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
