I just did what they say not to do. I had the R talk with my husband and he responded just as they say they will respond and I am devastated. He does not want to spend time with me so I asked if we were going to proceed with the D (he filed but then did nothing). He has a separate apartment and I am almost positive he does not have OW. He has seemed miserable but acts great with my daughter.
I told him tonight that if we are to ever start working on us then we need to spend time together having fun. He said it always has to be my way. I reminded him that he has been living away from me for 7 months and it has been his way. I then asked if he wanted to work on the M or proceed and he said proceed. I backed him in the corner and he didn't like it. He admitted in the conversation that he doesn't think he will ever be fixed and that we can never fix our M. He also said he would always love me but that wasn't enough. He said he is sick of our R talks (which we never have) and he just wants to be left alone!
Help me! I am tired and I don't think I can do this like the rest of you. I can't let him do whatever he wants while I sit around waiting for him to come out of this mess. And I am so sick of everything being blamed on me!!!! I want out yet after reading this sight and Divorce busters information on MLC, it is hard to leave someone when they are in a bad place. I know I am rambling but I am hurt and don't know what to do. I hate to lose him or to let go but I can't take this. It has been over a year since he started all of this. One day he was my sane husband and the next day he was gone! I feel like I am in a surreal world.
Please help me! I am a Christian and my pastor says I can't divorce him but I am sick of this! Please give me some advice!!!
