Don't take the blame for her actions. You didn't cause her to fall into the arms of another man. And if he's so good, why doesn't he pay her fine for her? No one is perfect, and I don't know what you did that was "bad" to her, but I can't help wondering if it was as bad as her having an affair was to you. You have been pursuing. Have you told her that she needs to end the affair with the other man? There is no reason for you to pay the expenses of a person who is leaving you. She can start standing on her own by paying for her own tickets.
