Lisa, you don't have to feel like a failure. YOu are not! Either in his eyes or yours. You are just a person tha twen trought a lot of pain and is hoping to get her marriage back , fully. You don't have to be perfect, because nobody is. And you don't have to blame yourself. YOu cannot turn back into the girl that he feel in love with, because that was a long time ago and both of you changed since then. However you can be the woman he loves and that's just as important. It's funny you talking about the girl he fell in love with, because rui told me that at the time of his affair. "I just want my girl back" I couldn't really do that, literaly at least, but I was able to give him a "taste" of how girlish I still feel
Maybe him feeling that you're not completely happy might be making him feel like a failure as well. And if that's so this will only go in circles. BReak the cycle. Find things you enjoy to do, both with him and by yourself. Smile... you can't imagine the power of a smile! Make life vibrant for you and life will be vibrant for both of you.- in theory -
A hug nigthshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
