brknheart, I feel for you, and understand your feelings. I've been separated for 6 months now.
Seems to me that your W has conflicting feelings, and goes back and forth. I'm no expert, and I have no success to back myself up, but you need to be as perceptive to her cues as you can. Sometimes distance will be right, and other times pursuit will be.
Make distance the norm, and when it feels right, make small, precise advances. Go slowly, and make it natural and without pressure. See how she reacts and adjust on the fly.
Regarding your inner thoughts and free time, it will take practice to squelch those maddening thoughts. Stay busy, relish your work, try new activities, and deepen your involvement in hobbies you already enjoy. Find some good books to read. Don't even think about OW! This is the time to enrich yourself, for yourself, so that you will be better for your W or OW, whichever you end up with.
