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Here is what happened. W called me after I left work. I told her that I will ask D8 what she wants to do because it is her birthday and she has been looking forward to crab legs all week. W got pissed. She said DO NOT INFLUENCE her decision. I said W, I have no intention of influencing her decision. I said I will lay out the scenerios for D8 and if she wants to go to the restaurant, that is where we are going. I said if she wants to hang with the family at the house, that is what we will do. I said but I will do what she wants since it is her birthday. W was mad and said to let her know. I said will do. We got off the phone.

So I picked up D8 and proceeded to explain the situation to her. I said it is your birthday and we will do what you want to do. She said she doesn't want tacos and enchiladas. I said so do you want to go to Joe's crabshack then. She said yes. I said that is what we will do. She then said but that means that the rest of the family won't show up? I said that is what it sounds like. She said then she would rather be with the family tonight than to have crablegs without everyone. I said are you sure. She said yes. I said ok. We will take you tomorrow night and we will go be with the family tonight.

I called W back and said that D8 decided although disapointed that she wants to spend the evening with the family. W said she understands and that her dad probably doesn't feel like sitting at a restaurant, blah blah blah.

Amazing how nice she was once she was told D8 will give up her crab legs to be with the family tonight and see W's dad.

So yes, a boundary was set. That boundary was as long as it is D8's birthday and it is on my time, I will let D8 decide what she wants regardless of what W wants. By the way, I failed to mention I did this last week to and W got pissy about it, but I didn't budge.

So I guess we will head over to W's sister's house and do tacos and enchiladas with her dad and family. But W knows that I was not going to do what she wanted regardless of what kind of fit she threw.

It is pretty crappy that they changed like this on D8. But hey, I let D8 make the call, not them. So I guess we will see how tonight goes.

I will respond to previous posts later. I have to get ready to go.

Kevin