Kemper, when I talked with my kids about the D, I made sure and told them mom and dad love them very much, that we will still be the best family in the world and that mom and dad still love each other (we still do at some level). I think the use of the word "familiy" is key. Kids gravitate towards it and it is something they can really understand. Insuring them family stability and love is essential. I am sure you already know this but it is important stuff and worth repeating.
Cie la vie, I'm with you on the detachment stuff. How do you know if you are detaching? How do you know if you are fully detached. I do not feel close to my W and do not rely on her anymore, yet I still get emotional when I think about what is going on. Who knows. Your W thinks she has found happiness with someone else and is addicted to that premise. I have not read your posts but, DB like hell, do not criticise and do not give the OM the benefit of any lip service.
