Sandi, I'm so glad you are here. I look forward to your comments and advice on my posts everyday. I can't tell you how much it means to me that you are here to help.

I think you gave me a lot of 2x4s today and boy did I need them. All I can say is that you are right, you are right, you are right. I think I am doing the right things but I know I am not. I know that I am making matters worse. I need to stop the self pity and really do the DB techniques the right way. What I am doing now definitely is not working. Not well at all. I am going to make myself stay away from my W. I must go NC because contacting her at this time is definitely not working.

Sandi, I have read the DB and DR books. Besides the GAL step what other DB steps do you recommned that I begin now? Should I just work on GAL for now? What next? I know what the books say but I'm interested in you opinion.

As always Sandi, thank you for everything.


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
Sitch