But GAL means going out, usually. How else will W take notice?
This is where you're wrong. GAL means doing things for YOU. It's not to get your W to notice. You do it to enrich yourself. If she notices, then that's a plus. If she doesn't, who cares.
Make this time about you. Not her. And I'm talking about HEALTHY things to do, like getting in better shape, learning something new, etc. If you are a couch potato, then get off your butt and walk around the block. These don't have to be big changes, just little ones here and there.
But again...most importantly, these things are for YOU!
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Aren't there any Malls where you live? It seems like you could spend a few hours hanging out there if you can't go anywhere else. Take in a movie, go to the libray and read, go look at art.......anything that is indoors, dry and warm.
Have you ever thought about some type of organization where you could volunteer your time and service? If you look in the paper or just check around town, I'll bet you would be surprised at the places you could get involved with. If you like children, there are many organizations that are needing adults to particapate. If you love the elderly, then check with the retirement centers. If you like to get involved with activities in the town, check with the civic clubs & organizations. There are a lot of homeless shelters that need people to volunteer services.
We have a Chamber of Commerce where we live that is a network between the business, etc. I bet there is something similiar there. You have to put forth some real effort when your soul is depressed, but once you get involved then it does seem to help you. Giving ourselves to others is about the best way to forget our own problems.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
yes , there are plenty of activities to involve with. I guess i'm depressed and it's hard to get off my butt when i feel this way. Feel tired and sleepy alot of the time. Need to snap out of it, BUT you guys know how HARD this can be. Funny thing IS, however, wife involves me in many activities, ie( gym, lunch and dinner out, movies, meeting friends for a drink, getting massages and pedicures together,etc...). BUT....she has made no mention of R, or any advances romantically . Then , today at walmart, she mentioned something about painting the kitchen cabinets. This confuses me as to her future intentions!!! ???
This confuses me as to her future intentions!!! ???
Do not place any value in things she says like painting the cabinets. It doesn't mean there is a future together....it just means she thinks the cabinets needs a coat of paint. The LBS hangs onto every word that the WAS says when they are feeling desparate and seeking for a hint of hope. I don't know the times that I have read a post from a LBH that will say, "Does she mean she is thinking of us being together in the future"?
Remember, the WAW is usually a person who is in a deep fog and is not thinking like she normally would. I say "usually" b/c I do not consider women who leave abusive MR's as the regular WAW. We do have a couple of ladies here on the board who fall into that category.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
ok thanks. Wife is in tv room now. I'm trying to head out after just showering. Gonna put on a nice shirt and the cologne she got me for christmas. I'm tired but gonna do it. Maybe sleep thru a late movie. Then sip a cold one (only one !). Then home.?????
Guess you are at the movies taking a nap by now! Just remember that you have to take care of yourself and don't run down until you are sick. The main point is for "you" to get involved with something that "you" enjoy. Makes it much easier than having to force yourself to get out there. But, I give you an A+ tonight! Maybe you won't wake up for several hours.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
sandi, woke up early just now...heard wife in other room!!! discusted and sickened..She's having phone sex!! with the guy from south america. I did suspect but Wished and thought it was not true. What ??to do now??? gonna take a xanax and breathe. DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO NOW????? this is sickening!! HELP
Just remember that you have to take care of yourself and don't run down until you are sick. The main point is for "you" to get involved with something that "you" enjoy. Makes it much easier than having to force yourself to get out there. But, I give you an A+ tonight! Maybe you won't wake up for several hours.