Hopeless feelings

[flowmom]

Hi mb28, our sitches are somewhat similar. And like me you're probably still in shock and full of confusion. Like you I don't know if there's an OW involved (I have no reason to believe so, except the circumstances).

I've also had the problem of doing too much helping/facilitating of H before and during the separation. I dunno, maybe we could imagine that they are on drinking binges...would we offer them a bottle of whiskey while they are on a drinking binge? Of course not. And we shouldn't make it convenient/easy for them to abandon their marriages without exhausting all the avenues for resolution. I'm trying to tell myself that.

Maybe like me, you're still figuring out what a 180 is for you. I'm thinking of using this test: when I think about doing something or saying something, would H think to himself "that's typical" or would he think "that's strange/unusual"?

I'm sorry to read that selling your home may be necessary. In my case, I am desperately hoping that that won't be necessary because I really want my children to have the continuity of the same physical home during this confusing time. But I know that sometimes there's no other choice.