Ok Bradley, nice surrender speech. I dont believe it. You are just going through the ebbs and floods that happen to a person in your situation. Dont make any rash decisions. Dont even make a decision this weekend. Why not just spend time with your boys instead and not talk anything out with your W. I think you need much more time to think and gather thoughts of others on this forum.
I know that J3B said to not make a timeline. I differ on this a bit in that I think it is good to set a timeline for yourself with a condition that it can be changed. It helps to give yourself a target so as to have some sort of sanity of your situation. I think if you were to talk to a counselor, they may help give you some guidance on personal goals, objectives and timelines. How is your golf swing? Could you maybe take a lesson to fine tune it?
Before you decide to move on and become a catch for someone, you cant leave that door partly open. There is a dynamic that could occur if you find someone else. Your W may all of a sudden decide that she is really going to lose you and may come to some huge awakening. However, that would be very unfair to the new lady you meet.
I dated and found someone before my divorce was final. I dont know if it had anything to do with my W asking for another chance, but there could have been some jealousy on her part. I dont really care as I had closed the door in my mind on her before dating so it made no difference to me. Even if I had not met the new person, I would not ever want my W back because I learned she lacked the strength to piece a marriage back to a happy state.
You have time on your side. Use it to your advantage. First learn to detach and be content in your own shell before making any life changing decisions.
Kerry-
just re read your post. this is really helpful. Really helpful. and thoughtful.
ok heading to the ER because someone fell of their motorcycle and banged up their lung
