"The next time you..."

Them still sound like fightin' words to me. The better method is just not to open yourself up to such a conversation in the first place. You're leading your own life. This isn't something to "do" to get (or not get) a response. It's something you "are".

C'mon Danny. Don't "hit" the ball. "Be" the ball.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mo0baknLDdU

"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh