sage, i feel he wants someone younger because the female "friend" he was talking to at time of bomb was 16 years younger than him.
he doesn't tell me how he feels, so I have to guess. I have known him for many years and can probably get close.
On an occasion that I made myself available to him sexually a couple weeks ago he acted less than excited about it. I got insecure and checked on the condom stash (that were bought a couple years ago to increase his stamina) and one was missing that wasn't used with me. I asked him about that and he blamed our 18 year old son who has a girlfriend. he also put on some cologne to go work out and I asked him about that and he said it was to not 'stink' when he was in contact with other members (it's a self defense class). however, there have been no calls to or from his cell phone to anyone. he is always where he should be. I came home from work unexpected to him I found out and he was watching a porno on his computer. He doesn't know I know that, but it ws very obvious that he didn't expect me at that time. I felt like an intruder in my own house. he was very quiet and withdrawn after that.