feel like bomb dropped again

[nightshade]

HI lisa, I agree with you it doesn't seem like the happiest time in your lives, but girl I can feel you are putting yourself down here.

YOU feel you're not the woman of his dreams anymore... well turn into the woman of his dreams! Remember the small things that certainly were a factor for his interest when your relationship started? WEll time to get them back
Seriously, everyone changes, that doesn't makes us less, just changed, and change doesn't have to be something bad.
Maybe you can't keep up with him on his hikes, ok, so sit down and compromise on a way where both of you can enjoy the hike. I know me and Rui loved it, but I do have some trouble keeping up sometimes, so we just agreed on a pace that suits us both, and more resting time.

If he is with you, there has to be some love there for you. Maybe he's not the telling type. Many men don't feel confortable with saying those words, but the actions count as much as words. SOmetimes more!

YOu shouldn't be focusing on what you "think" he wants> Because you can never really know unless he tells you. That is under the "assumption" field, and doesn't really help much.
Rather you should focus on what things you feel he enjoys with you and bring those up.
But mostly, try to find positives in your relationship that you can build up into more positives. And for that you need to feel positive as well. Maybe you are feeling a bit depressed with the whole situation. I know I did. IF that is so, maybe your doctor can help.
Just remember that the power to turn the situation around is in your hands as well. And focus on where you want this relationship to go.
Hope this helps
nightshade