You appear to be heading in a very similar direction as I am. My wife moves out in two weeks and she is also involved in a PA. You blindsided me with divorce papers in mid-Oct and the ball continues to roll.
We have temp. custody arrangments in place for my 3 year old twins B/G. and I'm just so bummed from it isn't even funny. My W seems to have completely checked out of our marriage emotionally as well. We have also been living under the same roof in seperate rooms and although we are cordial and civil with each other our contact/conversation is limited to parenting and divorce issues.
I'm sure you are struggling with the question of how your wife could come to the conclusion that breaking up your family is the best solution. Especially when you have young children involved. I personally just do understand where my W is coming from.
Everyone talks about the fog etc. and most of my friends, family and even my wifes family members don't get it either. They all seem to think that when she emerges from the fog the mistake will hit her like a ton of bricks. I'm not so sure that will be the case. It could be she just flat out doesn't love me or want the marriage anymore and that is that.
Do you see a similiar pattern with your W? As much as I would like to think that I am detaching I really wonder if that is the case. I believe detaching could be a very protracted event.
Anyway best of luck to you in your sitch. The kid aspect is just brutal to contemplate.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
