K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[25yearsmlc]

Soon.

I am not even kidding. I need to meet you so I can free myself from the WTF? that resides in my brain when you speak.

What I see here cannot be the real you, can it?

I never feel any fun from you. Are you fun? Do you ever HAVE FUN?

I do have fun. I go out and have fun with other people. I have fun with my kids. Granted I spend a lot of time worrying about what is going to happen in my sitch and when and what the outcome might be, and where I might end up at that point. Don't a lot of people in our sitches?

You are addicted to your pain. It's masochistic. You need to find value in yourself WITHOUT her. When you do, she might start respecting you.

I am addicted to my pain? No, I am not addicted to pain. I don't find pleasure in hurting. I have plenty of value in myself. I need to get back to the dance scene. Haven't been there for a while. I also like to take day trips. I have not done that in forever. I need to plan some again. Get out of town for the day and go somewhere fun.

Kevin

I know you go out, but I don't think you are putting yourself OUT there. What is the most fun you have had in the last two weeks?

Yes, you do spend a lot of time worrying about your sitch, and no, most of us do not spend that much time worrying about our sitch. I am 2 months into this, and while I would prefer to stay married, I'm okay if I don't. I love myself. No way in hell I'm going to pine away after some dude who left. Next! LOL

She left. You can't control the sitch or the outcome. Life is short. If you died today, you would have wasted the last year.

You need to let your ex-wife go.

AMEN! Very FEW people pine and spin their wheels in one place for this long...very few repeat themselves and cycle through the way you do, for this long. As for the theology search, you're making ME nuts. It's BS. I've been Catholic for most of my life, though I searched some other religions as well. But to me, it's All diversionary crap and a desparate attempt at being able to HAVE SOMEONE in your life b/c you cannot be happy alone. That's just so sad.

And no you are not working on yourself. It's superficial fillers that you do. And I now believe you have no idea what I mean when I say "do the inner work"...and I don't think you understand what CG means either...after all this time that is why supergirl wants to meet you irl. The same WTH? thoughts have crossed my mind 100 times. IF it weren't for faithful saying you seem fine, I'd just think you were faking here. OR that you are some sort of weirdo who likes being stuck and miserable and sharing that with us, blow by self inflicted blow. I can't stand the crazy talk about the validity of your m. It's as if I'm arguing law with a pre-law student who can't see the forest for the trees.
j-

PS Glad you realize your prior comments about people dating others who were married before, are NOT Loving or Christ like. Ever read any of the books people here recommended?