Trying LRT - Please Help!

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What does everyone think? I am still not sure that I should even respond at all.

Until you are 100% sure, do not reply.

Okay, so now that I have calmed down a little bit, here is my revised response.

Feel all those feelings. Channel that energy in to positive action. Respond when you are calm and sure.

Two things: You want to continue a 50/50 schedule. You also want to get first right of refusal. IE: H offers the kids to you before getting a sitter..... THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. You are setting precedence now. Accept the kids. Always offer to him first.

When you choose to limit the time you spend with the kids I feel that you are not taking their best interests into consideration. I understand that you travel for work, but I do not understand why you would not jump at the opportunity to make up for some lost time. Please let me know when you plan on telling the kids of your Orlando trip and your decision regarding the following weekend. I want to be present when this conversation takes place.

In addition, I think it would be wise for us to go over the calendar for the remainder of the year prior to you making any other travel arrangements. Since we have never discussed this in any detail, I just want to make sure that we are both on the same page going forward.

I think this is OK. I will spin it a different way. Remember that shorter has more punch.

When you choose to travel during your parenting time, which causes significant absence from our kids lives, I know with absolute certianty that this hurts our children. I know events in the future will come up and we will need to be flexible, but I want ensure that we both continue to have equal and frequent time with our kids. If you continue to put work before your relationship with your children, I will (Some actions you will take).

In addition: I want to be present when you tell the kids that you have decided to go to Orlando. When do you plan on telling them?