How do you think you can improve a R with no respect?
By being the better stronger person. By not scooping down to his level.
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Your exFIL clearly does not respect you since he offered to "come take care of you" for your W. Do you think all of a sudden he does respect you? How does attending a dinner create the building blocks of respect and repair?
W's MIL didn't respect me and hated me. I have repaired that R by not scooping to the same level as she was. If you want respect, you treat people with respect. If there is a decent bone in their body, eventually they will start treating you with respect as well. If he tries to disrespect me tonight, which I don't think he will, but if he does, I will stand my ground respectfully. If he brings up the D which is a possibility when he talks, I will decline to discuss it with him.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
