Kevin, those were suggestions. I'm asking you to change one thing, ONE thing in how you interact with her, that shows you have an identity of your own, one that isn't defined by her.
Have your counselor explain to you the two circles that picture a healthy relationship. It's easier when you draw it, but I'll try: One circle is you, one circle is her. If the two circles are completely separate, that's not good. In a healthy relationship, the circle's overlap, but not completely. That means you have a good thing together, but you also have your own separate identities and interests that you bring to the relationship.
Your circle is completely inside her's.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
