Moving Foward

[Kemper]

Nikblondiew,

I know deep down I would take her back BUT there would be a lot of things that would need to change on her part for that to happen.

So sorry to hear that he is depressed and battling drinking again. I think the majority of us on here wouldn't take our S back the way they are NOW. I know that I don't want my W back the way she is now, but I would be willing to work on the R/M IF she came to her senses, respected the boundaries, and actually TRIED to work at it.

I think even in a M you need to take care of yourself. I think that is why we are hear. How can we become the people we once were or want to be if we are in a R or not. We let part of ourselves go when we said "I Do" and in an unhealthy way.

I think it is normal to question if you would be with the same person again after all they have done. I will say that I have and still don't believe in D except for in extremem circumstances (e.g. abuse) but I don't see another choice at this point then to move the bus in that direction and see if my W "wakes" up because of it.