Looking for Advice

[Lost Rabbit]

Hi GW

It used to bug the **** outta H when I just said I was "busy" "ok" or "fine" but Eskimo Nell (whose no longer on here) used to just remind me to remain "calm and mysterious" lol! This worked for me as H and I were separated and it made him wonder what I was up to and I think thats why he came back eventually to find out!

It is a lot harder to keep busy and GAL and go for the proverbial icecone when they are present, but you can sound like you arnt letting them get to you, some might say it makes it easier for them to continue because they dont think their behaviour is affecting you, or you could look so good they want to spend time with you doing what youre doing!

Can you get some sorta cleaner/housekeeper type person in to give you a bit of time back to spend time with the kids and regain your saniety. Obviously this may benefit W as well but I do think you need a break.

For me I made being here at home a fun and nice place to be, made a few 180's which made quite a big impact, the first time H came back I made myself irresistable (well to him) lol. We went out for dinner and I was saucy, sassy and downright sexy all night. He then started to come back a bit, then he kept staying longer and longer, and then came home for Xmas and next Sunday will be back for good no bolt hole to go to anymore

I found that doing a list of my 180's every known again helped me see how far I had come. My 180's were not to panic, to keep calm, to not faff about but get on with it.. and lots of other little things, I made me a priority, infact last night H complained my night cream was smelly when I asked for a kiss, he got politely told that as I no longer know 100% he is mine for life I have to look after myself so he could either kiss me with night cream or go without, guess what I got a kiss lol!

Keep your chin up you can do this, can you get a sitter for the kids one night at the weekend just so you can pop out for a while on your own?