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[ClingingToHope]

The FaceBook comment shouldn't be surprising. When I went to W's for Christmas I focused on talking to her mom and her sister. Over the years I hadn't been as nice to them as I should have. I've always had a problem of holding people at arm's length, dealing with them on my terms.

So on Christmas I wanted to act the way I should always have acted. It didn't feel fake, but I'm sure W could have taken it that way.

Sounds like your H is trying to foster positive relationships with everyone around you so that they'll be in his corner when push comes to shove.

Maybe I've psychologically done that as well. I know W can feel smothered because I have a lot more friends than she does and also know a lot of people through my job. It might be why she's spending so much of her party time in a little rural town about 30 minutes from here. I don't know anyone there. She isn't reminded of me at all when she's out there.