WAW Using God

[pigskin]

After our talk on Tuesday W said "she'll do some thinking" about whether she is willing to do what needs to be done to reinstate our weekend apartment swap out arrangement. In other words, eliminate all OM connections, including any gifts he's given her.

We're not swapping out this weekend; she's going to bring the kids to her place, so obviously she's not at a point where she can sever all emotional ties to the EA.

She seems to have it in her mind that she can't do this cold turkey; she's told me this. She has to gradually ease out of it. I can understand the heavy emotional connection and how it is hard to break it off, but everything I've read recommends the cold turkey approach: purge everything relating to the relationship without exception.

In any case, she gets nothing from me until she does it. I'd just like to get on with the business of working on us. But I know time is my friend, I just have to be patient.

She got invited to go out tonight with some girlfriends and asked if I would like to have the kids. Since I had no plans tonight and would like to have some weekend time with the children I have no problem with it. It did cross my mind that she could be lying and I'm just a babysitter for her to go on a date, but she lives by herself during the week and can do that anytime, so I'm not going to concern myself with it.

If I had plans I wouldn't have broken them. I prefer Saturday night out anyway...