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Any room for a crazy canuck ??? I like to swim.


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Ok let me kill all of my good thoughts right now and update last night.

His plane was delayed an hour he was sitting on a hot plane and texting me - I didn't respond to them - now he wants to talk to me? I picked him up at 9:30 and he got into the car and didn't even say hello (been gone for 8 days) He was bitching about how I almost got a ticket waiting in the wrong line blah blah blah.

I put my music up and was singing on the drive home. We didn't really talk - other than him saying "stay in this lane" blah blah

We got home and he came in and he didn't hug the kids just said "I'm mad at you guys - I text you and no one text me back" - how immature is that? maybe because your kids don't respect you very much right now and maybe because they are sad! what a selfish pr*ck - his feelings always come first.

I went to bed first he followed after me and he said, "i hate my bed" (weve been meaning to get a new one) but he says, "i love the hotel beds but I'm glad to be in my own."

This morning he cleans the kitchen up. I get myself some coffee say thanks for cleaning up. He brings up the paycheck thing (hours werent showing) but he worked overtime. He starts to get real nasty with me. I say, "why are you screaming at me" - he wasn't but he was angry and raising his voice. I go to make my kids lunch and avoid him.

He says, "ok I'm gonna go now" (I'm thinking he's gonna leave without giving me his morning kiss) he comes over and goes to hug me and kisses me on the lips.

Can I get a holler?

Luv is trying so hard not to hate!


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Cutter in a speedo!?

Prayer answered!!!

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Sorry no Banana Hammocks. Your sons long board type shorts... Thats me... :0



Luv. Tought night and morning. Very hard example of water off a ducks back. I would not stand for that crap next time. Good you called him out on the anger.


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hey luvless if you enjoyed part one of my story read part two... its in my sig.... smile

Part two has more mystery less misery and equal love.

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P.S. there is this surprise plot twist in the middle. You are not going to believe who killed Aunt Betsy!!!! And its not the alien. Or is it? Hmmm.....


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Luv,

Originally Posted By: luvless
Luv is trying so hard not to hate!

Are you sure about this?

The only reason I'm asking is because it seems to me that instead of detaching, you seem to be actively allowing him to push your buttons and build your resentment.

Luv, c'mon girl! You can do this. Drop your expectations because they are killing you.

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You're in the back of my head always G - I know - I guess I'm looking for that dead feeling - it's a safe one.

Give me some credit - I thought I did well last night letting him not get to me! It was so hard not to say, "you're a f*ng a**hole"...really it was.

I AM detaching - I've been mourning the loss of my marriage. I think I'm tired though - tired of sulking...he obviously isn't.

I'm dropping my expectations - they are in a deep black hole - I can't even see them!

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My credit is often unspoken... you did a GREAT job biting your tongue.

How did you do with the body language and facial expressions?

Please try let go of the bitterness too. Sometimes it's difficult to distinguish when you are venting on the board or stating your intent.

((( Luv )))

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Thanks G - well I tried to keep my body language not so "f you" you know? but how he saw me - i dunno.

I'm trying to let it go! I have to - there is no other choice.

He is gross but I'm a duck! can't you see my webbed feet?


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Luv, my dear, after that acting you did last night... you are a swan!!!


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