As for the OM who keeps calling. Start keeping a record of this. What he said... etc... And if he keeps it up. Go to the police. File harrasement charges against him. This is very serious. Be very careful here.
Keep up with the communication with old friends and family.
What was your relationship like with his parents ?
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