It does. I mean, am I healed? No. But the pain isn't so fresh, and for the most part I am better equipped to handle the sitch now than I was when it first happened.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
My name is the same (less one k).. I read what you wrote on Lola's thread.. and had to stop by.
I get daily texts pretty much from my H too.. asking me how my days is going, or how my weekend went, or what my plans are. The time he spends with our daughter is always at my place and we spend the time together. It makes it impossible to get the distance or detachment.
Anyway, just wanted you to know we not only share a name.. but our current contact situation is so similar as well. I too get disappointed in how much time my H does not invest in our daughter...
Anyway, hugs to you. I'm on the alt if you are.
W2G
PS.. I too know in my head that my H is never coming back... he's said so and I believe him.. but my heart does not want to face it.
nik, When I suggested the book, I just assumed you were aware of CODA. There's a website, just put in your zipcode. Get to a meeting. It's really simple. Goldey
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Thanks for stopping by. I love talking with those who can relate...the support on here gets me through.
It's so nice being able to talk with those who can relate and understand what this is like. It makes it tough(er) for me because of my son. But he is also the reason I know I need to move forward with life. I don't want him to inhereit the "holic" like behaivors if I can help it. Most of the time the time my H spends with our son is with me also. Reality is a hard thing to face I ran from it for two years. I've done so much growing as a person in the last few years.
I would love to continue our posts......since we can relate. I'm here anytime!
I am on something else not sure if it's the same as yours.
Hey Nik just checking on you today. How are you doing?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm doing pretty well today so far. No contact with H yet. I think I'm bringing my son to a movie tonight. Pretty excited about that. That's keeping me in good spirits. He is my WORLD. Today is going well. I like having things to look forward to. My Vikings play on Sunday....oo can't wait! We're going to beat the Saints. Huge football lover.
How are you? Feeling pretty sassy underneath your clothes I bet New VS stuff
I wish...that doesn't come in until tomorrow. I don't do the mall, I shop online But I did pay a little xtra for 2 day shipping...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Sorry Nik, my favourite Canadian girl popped by after ...years? How are you Way2Go? I am sorry your stupid Gr guy is still a mess... Dont be a stranger love k
Sorry nik, IMO, time relly heals when we use the crisis for growth, easy to say, hard to do. But time will be a waste it it used only to cover the wounds superficially...
Kal- Agreed. Been doing the work. Counseling for 2.5 years, journaling, church, reading, groups, forums like these, etc. Truthfully think I'm doing everything I possibly can for myself given the circumstances. Not the woman I was 2 years ago, and so thankful for that. I've grown.
But I did pay a little xtra for 2 day shipping...