Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

2X4's taken and appreciated. She did enjoy letters like that when we first got together. No man had ever given her any before and I did. It endeared her to me at the time.

In PANIC mode I did think of doing the things that she liked about me in the beginning of our relationship.

She still respects me as a business man and a man in the community, but she does not respect me as a man for a partner right now.

I will say that being there and being nice to her was working through all of December, when she had me over almost every night and was ignoring the OM. On Christmas I became sad and played the victim and it turned her off.

Monday after Christmas I threatened OM and that set us back as I gave her an ultimatum.

She decided to go to NYE with me and we had a good time until bed time when I again played the victim.

She had her facebook and I threatened to move back in immediately if she did not friend me. She saw LTFF (long time female friend) had friended me and felt threatened. I defriended LTFF. She then emailed LTFF and confronted her. Results of confrontation was that she discovered LTFF was never a threat to our relationship. LTFF and I have been friends but I always talked highly of my wife to her.

In short, nice guy was 180 for me and was working. I then became victim threatening guy for two weeks and set back our progress.

I want to do what works, please help.