Not sure how things are going. The two-month sex sabbatical has ended without a comment on my wife's part and no initiation of sex on her part and some avoidance by her of situtations that might lead to sex.

She recently informed me that she has scheduled us for a meeting with a sex therapist for this Saturday. I am going to take that as a sign that maybe she is starting to think that we need to have sex again.

I did convince her to go to a woman doctor that specializes in low libido and women's hormone and health issues. She went on January 5th and the doctor is also a certified sex therapist. The night before my wife went I asked her to talk to the doctor about a number of things (all that my wife finds embarrasing) and to tell the doctor that our marriage is in crisis. We had one hell of a fight that night with her cursing me and telling me how insensitive I was.

The outcome of her doctor's appointment was that my wife is now going to be starting individual sex therapy with the doctor and the doctor recommended a couple of different sex therapists for us to see as a couple.

Now my questions for those who have gone as a couple to a sex therapist....

Any suggestions? Any topics you would recommend I bring up. Share any of my goals, hopes, dreams, fears? Just go with an open mind and see what the therapist can do?

Thanks

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.