You just said you started question faith/religion when your M fell apart. Nothing wrong with that. You said you thought about the 3000 religions out there. So it sounds to me you picked one that supports your cause.
I didn't pick one that "supported my cause". I was looking for truth. I was initially against the catholic faith. I had to be convinced that I was wrong about it. I was eventually convinced after a lot of being talked to and shown things. It had nothing to do with supporting a cause.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I don't know about Texas but here that would be a consideration.
A consideration for what?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
And I agree with your friend.. unless you work on a golf course Polo's are not appropriate work attire even on "casual day".
In closing.. your whole point in this investigation to the validity of your marriage boils down to you needing to know if you can have another R after your W divorces you. If the marriage is valid then you may not have another R in the eyes of the church post divorce due to a sacramental marriage being binding for life in the eyes of the church. Now am I getting it?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Employment history and salary are considerations for support in my state. That is why I said I don't know if they are in your state. It is not part of the criteria but a consideration as there is no set formula in my state.
And if the Church can convince you of things after much talking to why don't you offer US, the people that have stuck by you despite the fact you have shunned as at every turn, the same thoughtful consideration?
In closing.. your whole point in this investigation to the validity of your marriage boils down to you needing to know if you can have another R after your W divorces you. If the marriage is valid then you may not have another R in the eyes of the church post divorce due to a sacramental marriage being binding for life in the eyes of the church. Now am I getting it?
Yes, you get it. Because if it is not valid as a sacrament in the church, then I can at least pursue another R down the road without question if W D's me and moves on to someone else in another M herself. This in no way says I don't want our M to be repaired. More than anything I do. But in the end, if it doesn't ever come back around, at least I would know whether or not I have another option to pursue R wise or not. I will know whether or not my M was valid or not. If it wasn't valid, I was praying for nothing. If it is valid, I don't feel like my efforts were wasted. It clears a lot of things up.
It does not excuse me from working on myself just to be clear. But it does clear up the situation of where things stand in regard to our M from the churches perspective.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
And if the Church can convince you of things after much talking to why don't you offer US, the people that have stuck by you despite the fact you have shunned as at every turn, the same thoughtful consideration?
I do. But I also want to make sure I am in alignment with where the church stands. For instance, doing things to better my ownself is something I should always be striving to do and does not contradict the authority of the church. But filing for D, does. So I have to look at what I can do that keeps me in compliance and not do what would basically put me out of compliance with the church.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
