She called me last night to wish me good night. We laughed and joked for about 20 minutes about different things. She said she enjoyed the call.
On a downside she said she is going to see OM tonight. She says that she may cancel and want to see me instead (I am not holding my breath).
OMG. This is NOT going to work, and in fact it isn't working NOW, L.H.S.!! So, not 12 hours after you send her the most pursuing, supplicating letter I've seen in probably the past 3 years on this forum, she informs you that she's STILL going to see OM? Or, maybe not -- MAYBE she'll grace you with her presence? And you think this is working . . . why??
One of the misconceptions about DBing, in my opinion, is the "Do what works" thing. The problem is that people mis-define "works" as being "what doesn't make her/him angry" and "what makes her/him act nice towards me." Instead of as "what moves me further along down the path toward a mutually-healthy and committed marriage."
Sometimes one has to take a short-term "hit" in the "nice" department in order to solidify a healthier, longer-term gain.
Calling it a "180" doesn't negate all of the immutable laws of human attraction.