K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[K4D]

Are you telling us your marriage might be invalid as a sacrament? If so, then really, who cares at this point? And if YOU care then why did you not worry about this before your W left you?

It has been made aware to me that yes, it may be invalid as a sacrament. I didn't know about this before my W left me. It never crossed my mind.

You need to seek medical/psych help and tell them you are so depressed you can hardly function, you are frozen in fear, you are unable to set boundaries with anybody in your life, you have reached almost a fanatical level with the Church and are unable to establish and reach any sort of goals.

huh? frozen in fear? can't function? Just because I don't like the state of things doesn't mean I am not funtioning or I am frozen in fear. I don't consider myself to have reached a fanatical level with the church either, just trying to follow along with it and understand where I stand. I don't think by me recognizing the church as the authority that it makes me a fanatic. Don't most catholics recognize the church as the authority?

No talking, no sharing of feelings or what needed to be improved in his eyes, no work on himself... NOTHING. He did nothing yet to him he did everything.

I did talk about and share my feelings. W says I talked to much and she just wanted to duct tape my mouth shut.

Also, I have been told like I said to assume my M is valid at this point until the courts have said otherwise. Only then will the church actually look at it to see if it is a valid sacrament or not. But my priests thinking right now is that it may not be.

Anyways, latest update. W called me yesterday as I was on my way to mass after work and tells me her mother threw a fit about W trying to reschedule dinner so she could spend last night with her dad. So W put dinner back on for last night with her mom, step dad, D8, D12, her sister, her sisters BF and her neice. She told me when it was and wanted to let me know so I could join. I said no thanks, to go ahead and enjoy their dinner and I will catch up with them Friday, being tonight. She said sounds good and we got off the phone.

W calls me this morning and asks me if I want to wish D8 a happy birthday. I said yes, I did want to but was at work on a conference call from 7am til 8am and by then figured D8 would be at school. W said she is letting D8 move slowly this morning because it is her birthday. That didn't sit well with me as D8 has been tardy a few times to school, but I said nothing. I said let me talk to her. So I wished D8 a happy birthday and talked to her for a few minutes and told her I would be joining her for lunch today at her school. She said her mom is bringing cupcakes so I guess W may be there also. Not thinking ahead, I had put on a regular polo shirt for work being Friday that W has said in the past she hates. Ugg. Oh well. I will change tonight for dinner.

Kevin