I snapped a little tonight. Not really a confrontation. me: "I just saw the divorce papers. You are asking for primary custody!" W: "no, joint" me: "I quote: joint legal, primary physical custody" much later, w: "I have emailed them about the wording"
Having, and showing some, emotion is understandable and ok. As long as you are in control.
But, do not have anymore "legal" discussions with her. That's what the L's are for. It's a great "out" to keep you from having to engage her, especially when she starts seeing you aren't going to give her what everything she wants. "W, you picked this fight, so, we will just let the L's deal with it."
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I can't believe I'm doing this.
Shake it off. The truth is, NOTHING HAS CHANGED from before the filing. NOTHING.
I understand the impact of looking at your name in a D petition and there it is - in black and white. And I understand the shaking and anger and hurt. I did the same thing, and I am a trial L who you would think has been de-sensitized to that type of thing.
I am used to sitting in the L chair. It is quite another situation to be sitting in the "client" chair for the first time. I will NEVER again look at a client meeting quite the same.
You can handle it. Just get through today. The sun will come up tomorrow and the next day and the next, just like it did yesterday and the day before that.
Feel your emotions and let them flow through and OUT of you. That's not only ok, but necessary.
Then throw yourself into the ski trip with the kids.
