Hey Walking, I have read Deepak Chopra, thanks. I like Pema Chodron too.
I've known my bf 14 years but his depression wasnt 'obvious' or even diagnosed until after his Dad died and we moved to Cornwall. It was never a major aspect of our R, or didnt impact it. But it did before and during the S and largely the cause of him leaving (and some of that was my responsibility, of course).
The comments I made about Helen and their R were just some more processing the last 2 1/2 years (and what this thread has been for).. as new information came to light (the old phonebill). I'm not blaming him for that Virginia, or any unhappiness, or the S even. I DO take responsibility for my part in the breakup.
I dont have any unhappiness, but I have had a few wobbles around trying to conceive and normal concerns about trying for a baby at near 39 and the associated risks, but I can honestly say I am not focusing on the medical worries, I am more focusing on eating well and ML every other day as advised !
Its not perfect that he suffers with depression, but I dont intend to de-select him as a parent! My uncertaintities about having children arent to do with that, they are residual from my own upbringing (that I should aspire for careers and independence rather than M and children) and I've had to work at unravelling that childhood conditioning, which has taken years! Just in the nick of time, hopefully.
