She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

I was right to expect the papers; she left them on my nightstand. Right after I posted last night I went to bed and found them.

There were some additional papers that I had not seen online. Primarily a letter from her lawyer. There is one possible positive: they are requesting that we go to mediation. However, my Lawyer told me on Tuesday that all D's in my county are required to attempt mediation, before going to court.

Another thing. W seems to have changed in her mind when she dropped the bomb on me, and it is reflected in the papers. She has our separation as starting on Oct 8th. She dropped the bomb on me on Oct 23rd. She first mentioned this to me several weeks ago, and it just shows how much I defer to her that I thought to myself "I'm so confused that I can't even remember the right date". It's easy to go back to the start of my thread and find the true date; I don't know why I just went along with her revision. I also sent an email to my MIL the day after (oct 24).

I haven't really worried about this, but now I wonder if there is a legal reason she would want the "seperation" to be earlier. Most likely her A started between oct 8 and 23.

So, this is the true start of the legal process. I'll deliver the papers to my L's office this morning.

I can't believe I'm doing this.