Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Am wondering, since W and I aren't communicating, or talking about the M/R at all, and knowing that W iniated the D, and reiterated that fact after I was "tagged", Should I e-mail her the following part of RobX's thread?:

"I get it, you haven't wanted to be in this relationship for a long time, that's why you checked out so long ago, that's why you felt it necessary to pursue another man, I get it, I really understand this now. We both did things to contribute to this mess. I just know that now I feel the same way, I finally get it and maybe you should be with the OM because I haven't been getting what I wanted from you in a very long time and I never admitted it to myself and maybe I need to admit to myself that I want to find someone new & exciting to be with, someone who is honest, shares my same values, etc. I hope you and the OM will be happy together because I don't think you really want to be with me anymore and honestly I'm thinking maybe I don't really want to be with you anymore either. My focus right now is to be a great father to my kids and maybe look to start something new with someone new."

I'm not sure of this one. I think it might be a good idea, but not sure if I just send it out of the blue, or sit on it. If I sit on it, when would be the ideal time to use it?

Is the reason I want to send this to her, to let her know that I am "done", and I "get it"? Or is it to get a reaction from her-to feed my co-dependancy issue? HHmmmm.

I need to think about this one.