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[awest1217]

Thanks Kemper, and i completely understand what you are saying. I know #1 sounds a little harsh, but I have only once kept H away from S and that was on S's b-day party because H had not paid any child support at all since he moved out in April, and he was not seeing S, except when i pushed the issue. I would never stop H from having a relationship with S (I know also personally what this can do to a child), although I don't like it because H has some major issues with women and he is not a good role model, but S needs his dad and ultimately I want H to be with S all the time. I just meant that if H doesn't want to be in S's life full time (meaning keeping to a visitation plan and not going weeks with nothing then some weeks is every day, some is once and once again weeks with nothing) then he doesn't need to bother us at all. S is 2 and this coming sometimes and not coming others is confusing for him. H is the one who when he is mad at me will not see S. I have tried to foster a relationship for most of the separation. This is the first time I am not doing it, which is hard because it kills S, but I am just letting H make his choices and if he doesn't want to see S that is his choice. I am not going to try to get him to, which I would have up until now.

Thank you for your input. I agree with what you said. I am going to probably actually keep 600 because I paid for all of his family's christmas gifts and my family's (this is when is really seemed like he was going to come home) so the extra $100 repays me for the money I spent on his family for Christmas and for his half of the cell phone bill I pay. My only problem is I really want to stay away from where he lives and if I am going to give him the check I should also give hiim all the mail that is piling up here as well...although mailing is a good idea, but I don't know if he is even still living in the same place.

Any others?