Moving Foward

[Kemper]

Her relocating is a huge concern of mine and something that will be spelled out both in the move out agreement and the separation agreement. I refuse to let my children grow up with me hours away. I want it so that a judge has to decide if my W (or I for that matter) can relocate. I don't want her to decide one day that she is moving back with the boys to where we grew up, and where OM lives. I honestly wouldn't even want her to move back there if the boys stayed here. It isn't in their best interest for either of us to live hours away from them.

Sorry to go off on a tangent.

I can't really read into it all that much. Over the past few months she has spent plenty of time away from the house, both with the kids and without. However, while we were having issues I had maintained up until the day after Christmas that I didn't believe in divorce and she would be the one to file. Based on that I don't think she ever had to think about what D would be like because she probably felt that she would string this along as long as possible. After I changed my stance based on the cake eating and her lack of effort for the M (and OM) maybe this is her starting to get a taste.

I am at a point now where even if she came back home tomorrow and said she wanted to work on things I wouldn't. Why? Because I think she needs to feel the full effects of her choices and that includes moving out, being on her own, getting a job, struggling, etc. I hate to say it but my wife has/had it really good. I need to upset that balance before I would even think of working on the R/M if she decided she wanted to.

It will be interesting to see how she acts tomorrow night. I am going to maintain my same "as if" and happy demeanor.