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[Kemper]

Hey awest1217,

Unfortunately only he knows his motivation. However, I would say that regardless of if H sees S or not he IS still responsible for child support.

As far as the money goes if you can't get in touch with H could you deposit the check and then write him a check for $200 and mail it or drop it off? You said that you wouldn't have an issue if it was $500 but it concerns you that it is $700. Why not just take the $500 then and give back $200 if you can't contact him. At least this way you at least get what you were asking for.

I haven't read your whole sitch but #1 above bothers me. I realize that your H has probably not spent as much time with S as you would like him to. I also realize that your sitch like so many on here is probably filled with pain, anger, frustration, etc however, he is still your sons father. What you wrote about you keeping S and everything would be good because S wouldn't have to go back and forth, do you really think that is true? Do you really think your S not having a father in his life is in his best interest? It sounds rather selfish to me personally.

Please don't take what I said above the wrong way. If your H doesn't want to be a part of his sons life then that is his choice. I personally wouldn't defend his actions in that choice. However, growing up without a dad isn't any fun, believe me I know. I would have given almost anything to have my father or at least a father figure in my life growing up. However, my dad made his choice and I suffered the consequences of his choice. All I am asking is if your H does want to be a part of his sons life then by all means don't punish your son because of the relationship his parents have.