New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Called my boys this evening to remain consistent with my calling schedule. They are doing good. My S10 is very sensitive about me not being there. He had a blast when we were together for Christmas. But when he's on the phone, he doesn't say much. I think he tries to not show his sadness, especially when my W is in the same room, next to him. Children always pay the price for the parents' mistakes. Always taken in hostage. I hate it.

Got to chat briefly with W as well. I did my best to sound as if I was just checking on a friend. It kinda worked. My W asked a couple of questions about my family, even about my health. We talked about the boys, her school, health. It was brief, but the tone was friendly on my W's side. I ended the conversation first.

Any contact, as brief as they are give an opportunity to showcase the new me. I was very satisfied with our contact. W never brought up R, D, or S. And she had plenty of time to do so. This was a good contact. One day at a time. I think I am getting stronger with each encounter. I sound confident, friendly, caring. But I don't hang on to the conversation. Is that a sign of good detaching and strenght?

JR09