Moving Foward

[Kemper]

LolaL,

I agree with you 100% that not only do they know they are screwing up but that pride is a very strong beast and many would rather hold onto pride than ask for forgiveness. Unfortunatly, I think I feel into that somewhat in our M but I am aware of that now and offer my sincere appoligies whenever I know I screwed up.

All,

Good and interesting night tonight. I had dinner with some friends after work. It was good to get out and be around people that truly care about you.

While out to dinner my W tried calling a couple of times. She is out of town with the boys and based on a letter that our lawyers drafted up she needed to let me know when they arrived at their destination, have the boys call ONCE while gone to talk and let me know when they were on their way home so that I knew when to expect them. Well my W called last night to have the boys talk to me so I had no intention of answering the phone tonight and I didn't. On the last call she left a VM so I checked it in case anything was wrong. She said she wanted to let the boys say goodnight and I could tell she wasn't her normal self and that I should call later if I want. Even after listening to the message I had no intention of calling.

Then one of our neighbors called and left a VM. I am really close with the husband and he is aware of everything including the A. I called him back to see how he was doing. He said that my W had called their house because she was "worried" and couldn't get in touch with me. I told him (even though he was already aware) that we are on the verge of separation and I find it odd that my W calls two nights in a row while away this time but any other time doesn't have the decency or respect to call when she is out of town. NOTE: I typically call anyway because I want to talk to my boys. He then told me that his W wanted to talk with me. She is really sweet and knows most of what is going on but doesn't know about the A. She asked me to call my W to let her know that I was ok. I will be honest, I didn't want to call and as I was talking to her their house phone was ringing and she said it was my W and I need to call her. I relented and told her I would.

I called the W and she answered. She said sorry for all the panic but she was worried. I asked if my sons were there. She put the youngest on and I had a few min conversation with him. She got back on the phone and I asked if my oldest was around. She tried to get him on the phone but he is at an age where he really has to be interested in something or else he doesn't want anything to do with it. Needless to say he wasn't interested in talking on the phone. My W then let me know their plans for leaving tomorrow to head back. I said ok and it felt like she was trying to hang onto the conversation. I told her that I needed to go and I said goodbye.

Please don't get me wrong, I am not reading into the above situation, I just find it interesting and odd at the same time.

Then I get home from dinner and in the mail is a bill from Verizon. She got another cell phone because a few weeks ago I turned off text messaging on both of our phones with AT&T to cut back expenses for the upcoming separation. I knew she got one a few weeks ago but it will be intersting to see what she says, if anything now that there is a bill and she will know that I know. Up until this point I assume she thought I had no idea about it.

I have a meeting with my L tomorrow so I need to see if I am at all responsible for paying for her "new" cell phone. She is acting like a rebelious teenager thinking "Dad" cut off the text messaging so I will show him and go get a new phone.

When she gets home I am going to act "as if" and see if she says anything about it. Oh well the drama continues...