Hey mb28, Sorry I did not get back online last night, I was wiped out from all the stress of my on sitch.
I am very proud of you, great job last night, make sure and write down in a calendar or a journal what you did and how it made a difference!!!! I used to hate writing and reading now I can't get enough of either. When you write down what you did differently it is validating to yourself that you are changing and you are making yourself a better person. Also make sure you write down the positive responses from your H. No need to write down the negatives there will always be plenty of those.
Originally Posted By: mb28
He did say that every time he is around me I say or do stuff that makes him mad, and convinces him that it will never work between us. I didn’t get emotional and again just validated. However, this did tell me, that I need to stick with the 180’s. LRT, and “act as if” when he is around. I have to learn to be patient and make every encounter count.
WOW, you have come along way already!! Remember, don't believe anything they say and half of what you see. This is like anything you have to work hard for, once you see a little progress you want to work harder at it. Just remember this is a 26 mile marathon not a 100 yard dash, working harder in this sitch is learning to be patient, Patient, PATIENT. Your H is going to try your patience everyday and sometimes you are going to have to walk away or do something different, when you do it one time successfully then it gets easier. Let us know how tonight goes, I know you are going to do great. YOU WILL SUCCEED!!!!
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
