Thought I'd come over here and pay you a visit. I was happy to see that you were taking care of yourself by going to the gym and pilates class. For me exercise class was a stress releaser. Actually that's always my best advice for anyone going through this. I could be having a bad day feeling very low and down on myself, but after I had pushed myself to work out I felt as if I had done something nice that would improve my life.
Going dim, good for you. Emotionally I became so much healthier when I pulled back and was unavailable. So think of this more for you. Besides, there's a great big world out there and you never know what life may hold for you. So for me going dim means no more dodging his moods, insults, or his emotional unavailability that hurts our feelings and leaves us with that awful emptyness. This will make you stronger and get you where you need to be. At some point we all have to let them do whatever it is they think will make them happy. Personally I don't think they have a clue but it's best they find out without any interference from us. In the meantime you might just find some happiness with the life you are creating.
