Don't know where to post this.

[MichelleLT]

She will be seeking validation from other people until she faces her issues. It is not a good sign, it is a sign that she is acting co-dependent, that she believes other people can make her happy (not true).

Just look at what happens when you don't contact her for a while. She panics and contacts you seeking reassurance. You give her reassurance, things are good for a while, then she needs something else to bolster her self-esteem and she seeks it from some OM. You back off, she wants reassurance from you, rinse and repeat.

Does that about sum it up? So, how are you going to break the cycle?

Her starting counseling is great. You doing counseling is great. But it's not enough. You have to change how you interact with her. You have to push towards a healthy, non-co-dependent R.