Just catching up. Sounds like you are setting up good boundaries and seeing a little change. How do you feel now? I know when I discovered that setting boundaries works it helped me a lot. Yes, H gets the attitude with me but at least I feel that I can say no and he doesn't run the other way for very long. The important part was me feeling more in control over my own life and decisions. What he does is his responsibility. And hey, are you really thinking about a move? This past year while I waiting for H to figure things out - do you remember that I went house hunting? It felt good and I learned a lot about what I had and what I my options were. Enlightening... what I didn't tell anyone here at the time was that I found a place I loved but it was way out of my range but a few months later I got a call that I could get it at my price so things can turned around a lot. Anyway, the experience made me feel more in control of my life again and I know I have options. It was fun. Can you do that? I started with open houses. There was also a new community but it only offered condos or two level homes so I passed, but now they are emailing me that ranchers are being added and I am interested again. Don't know if I can afford it but it is nice to see how things can turn around if you go after what you want.
