Well, I hope for your sake the marriage as not valid. You are 34 and basically are telling me (if I am understanding this correctly, if not please pardon me, I am trying to follow all this) the ONLY way you are allowed, as per the church, to have a R after a divorce (a legal divorce I mean) is if your church marriage is invalid according to church law?
Why not just become a priest now?
Let's just say your marriage IS valid in the church and your W does divorce you. Are you saying you will NEVER have a R again because the church still sees you as married despite a legal divorce? If so then maybe priesthood is something to look into. Actually, maybe you can't be a priest since you are not pure. I grew up in a very strict Roman Catholic home (I don't practice anymore and have not for a long time so let's not get in a debate about that) but this all seems a bit staunch.
